Being a mother is no piece of cake. From the beginning there is seemingly endless crying, sleepless nights, demands on your time and energy, exhaustion both physical and mental, putting your needs on indefinite hold—forgetting what your needs even are. Kids fight—with each other and with you. You know it’s your job to do something about it but seem to have no idea what to do. You need a break. But will you give it to yourself? Probably not.
This Mother’s Day I have a break for you. I find that in times of stress, when I’m full of indecision and don’t know which way to turn, when I know I want something but don’t know what it is, when I need to get something off my chest but don’t really want any advice—what always helps is an understanding ear and sharing with someone who knows just what I mean.
Katrina Kenison is that person who knows just what you mean and has been there in one form or another. Her books, The Gift of an Ordinary Day and Magical Journey are memoirs of growing and learning to let go throughout her parenting years. Together with all the changes, tragedies, and daily doings of each ordinary day, Katrina gives you that ear, that understanding—even though she doesn’t even know you.
Katrina has a way of telling us about her life, her thoughts, her relationships, and her parenting that feels like a warm blanket of validation. She is writing about herself and her experiences but at the same time is seeing you. Reading Katrina’s books, for me, was like talking to my best friend.
Every mother I know worries and fears at some time or another about the future—what it will bring for her and her children—based on her past—what she experienced and what she is unintentionally projecting. It is shamefully hard to live in the present, to simply be with your children, especially if the present is difficult.
If our children are screaming, dawdling, demanding, withdrawing, we have to do something about it. So we go into teacher or even dictator mode, and if that doesn’t work, we may give up. Rarely are we able to be present, accept what the moment is bringing, deal with the feelings arising, and honor those feelings with integrity. This is the journey. This is the lesson of our lives—to let go of what we fear will happen, let go of our past stories, and simply drop into the present.
In both her books, Katrina takes us along her journey and in doing so helps us see what our journey is about.
“As I loosen my grip on the past as I keep taking one small step after another in the direction I want to go, I discover I’m being supported and guided after all, and that as soon as I’m willing to embrace change, something or someone comes along and shows me how….When hearts are open, when love is flowing, magic happens.” Magical Journey
Here’s how to win one of Katrina’s books:
Write a comment about where you are in your journey right now, what it feels like, what you worry about, or what you cherish. Or simply say, “Count me in.” I will choose two winners at random from the comments and send you an autographed copy of either The Gift of an Ordinary Day or Magical Journey. Drawing will be held Sat. May 18th and the winners will be notified.
And if your appetite has been whetted and you like the sound of these books even if you don’t win, here are the links to Katrina’s website and her books on amazon for your search:
Katrina Kenison’s website and blog – http://www.katrinakenison.com
Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful mothers!
Congratulations to Laura and Jora !
They each won (via random.com) a copy of Katrina’s books. Thanks to you all for your comments. I know you would all love Katrina’s books so even if you didn’t win, do treat yourself to one.
And please keep on commenting.