When Your Kids
Push Your Buttons!
A Teleseminar in two parts
Follow this recorded teleseminar—a 12 hour Buttons workshop for parents—at your own pace and preferred time. Use your workbook (download included) for the exercises and homework between sessions to apply the work to your personal life and family.
Listen and learn in the convenience of your home—no travel, no babysitters, no driving, no parking, no added costs, no hassles. Listen to the classes as often as you like.
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The Buttons Background:
After teaching my Effective Parenting Workshops for more than ten years, I realized that many parents, enthusiastic about their new skills, often returned to class more discouraged than ever. Now they knew what they wanted to do but they still couldn’t do it. It was because their buttons were getting pushed.
Personally, I learned first hand what it’s like to have my own buttons pushed. My first child was an easy-going, cooperative kid. The kind every parent hopes for. For 4-½ years, I believed I was an exemplar parent. Then we had Molly. Molly was cut from a different mold and gave us a run for our money from the moment she began to walk. Power struggles took over our previously happy home. I was teaching parents how to better communicate with their children at work and struggling with a strong-willed, won’t-take-no-for-an-answer, don’t-tell-me-what-to-do child at home. It finally became clear after five years of getting my buttons pushed. One morning my perception of Molly did a 180º shift. We never got into another power struggle, and our relationship changed forever.
I saw that a critical step was missing in parent education. This was too important not to teach, write about and spread far and wide. It was clear. No parenting skill can come to the rescue of a parent whose button has been pushed. I saw what was needed to defuse those buttons and it was nothing shy of a fundamental mindset shift. I set about to teach parents how to get there.
I developed a parenting workshop called Defusing Your Buttons to address this critical missing piece. Over several years of learning from parents of all different circumstances what happened when their buttons got triggered and why, I wrote the book. Then I began teaching my fully designed When Your Kids Push Your Buttons parent workshops, later developing a training course for professionals.
The Buttons Parent Workshop
All parents get their buttons pushed—by lots of people—but no one pushes them like our children. We open our mouths with all best intentions of correcting our child’s behavior and out come those words we swore we would never say, those ineffective threats, and that tone that turns children parent-deaf. Our reactions are automatic, our authority is lost, and parenting skills are inaccessible. Nothing effective can be taught or learned. Our children drive us crazy by pushing those buttons again and again, and we lose control again and again. Actually those button-pushers are the most important teachers we will ever have.
Effective parenting is achieved through connection—understanding what our children’s behavior is trying to tell us, responding with acceptance, empathy and effective limits, holding appropriate expectations, and giving our children the support they need. But to get there, we must take care of ourselves and defuse our trigger points first.
Once you register for the Teleseminar, you will receive the e-document of The Buttons Workbook, which we will follow throughout the class. The workbook includes exercises, questions, charts, and practices that allow you to put your own experiences into the material.
The Goal of The Buttons Class:
You will raise your awareness of the assumptions and expectations you hold about yourself and your children that result in your ineffective reactions to your children’s behavior; you will learn to take responsibility for those assumptions and expectations and reframe them into conscious intentions of parenting that break the old patterns you hate and foster connection with your children.
In Part 1, you will become aware of what you are reacting to (hint: it’s not your child!) and what to do about it in order to stop the reactions you hate and respond effectively to connect with your child. You will learn how your best intentions of teaching better behavior get lost in “the gap” and misunderstood by your child—the root of more unacceptable behavior.
You will discover the critical step that instantly and automatically creates the obstacle to Connective Parenting and turns you into the parent you swore you would never be. Understanding that step will open awareness, change perceptions, and transform your anger and blame to compassion and understanding.
Workbook exercises translate theories into practical solutions for you. You may learn all you need in Part 1. But Part 2 helps you dig deeper.
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In Part 2, we will look at the other side of “the gap”, the messages you took in from your parents when you were little that determined the perceptions you made about yourself and others. No need to have clear memories of your childhood to discover why you learned what you did about yourself. Your reactions to your button-pushing children are rooted in your past. The expectations you hold for your children are usually transferred from or compensate for your own experiences. In Part 2, you learn where your buttons originated. The workshop will take you to a deeper level where you will discover how the limiting beliefs you learned in childhood form the buttons your children push—and why. You will come to understand why they stay stuck in your subconscious and how you actually depend on these beliefs that drive you. Once uncovered, you will see that you now have control over them rather than they having control over you.
Part 2 opens the door to new ways of connecting with your child that you will never be able to close again. You will become aware of the choice you have: You can punish your child for pushing your button or you can learn what your button is telling you about yourself that may no longer seem true.
And you will learn that your button-pusher is the most important teacher you will ever have.