When kids are viewed as bad, they learn they are bad, and so they behave badly. Most parents don’t believe this. Here it is from the horses mouth.
I wanted to share with all of you this testament to connection, to listening and trusting your child and how he operates, instead of using tactics to try to get him to be who you want and losing connection in the process. This was said so beautifully and succinctly said from a parent who has been there, put connection to work and reaped the benefits.
“My son was 5 years old and starting kindergarten. I was excited for the first parent teacher meeting to hear how he had been adjusting to school. The meeting did not go very well. In short, I left disheartened and believing I had a difficult and disruptive child, an awful feeling for a parent.
It went downhill from there. He was sent to the principal’s office multiple times a week and eventually kicked off the bus as well. I was beside myself. I felt hopeless, frustrated and honestly sad. He was my first and only child, and I was completely messing this parenting thing up. Not only that I had this child that I loved dearly that apparently no one else could tolerate to be around. I listened to other’s opinions and advice on what I should do and why they felt he was the way he was, but nothing felt right. I didn’t completely understand what was going on with him but I knew he didn’t want to be the problem, it was just the way it seemed to be.