If you want your children to become respectful, responsible people, you must model that behavior. With poor boundaries, this is hard to do.
Contrary to popular opinion, boundaries and limits are very different from one another, although many use the words interchangeably. The word boundary is often used to refer to setting limits. Kids “push boundaries” or they won’t “listen to the boundaries”. It is the rare parent who understands the true meaning of boundaries. And it’s no wonder. Many of us were not brought up with them.
When we say someone doesn’t have good boundaries, we are talking about a dividing line between two people and their personal space and responsibilities.
When people blame others or situations for how they feel or for their life circumstances, they have crossed that line, taking no responsibility for themselves. They have poor boundaries.
Good boundaries are essential for a family to work cooperatively as a team.
Limits are what you impose to keep your children safe and behaving appropriately. Limits are parameters you set around your children’s behavior using your parental