I choose to be a connective parent because flexibility and self-direction are the two top competencies needed to succeed in the 21st Century.
I choose to empathize with my child because understanding another’s point of view is paramount in establishing good relationships.
I don’t engage in power struggles with my child because a win/lose model never wins.
I don’t use time out because I don’t think it’s right to isolate a child who is having a problem.
I don’t spank or hit because I don’t want to teach my child that using physical force is a way to get what you want.
I don’t take away privileges because I don’t think that intentionally provoking my child’s anger or resentment is the way to gain cooperation.
I don’t ground my child or take away access to what is important to him because it won’t seem fair or logical, and he will assume that I don’t understand him.
I choose to problem solve with my children instead of punish or dole out consequences because it is important for them to express their feelings and work through a problem to find it’s solution and make compromises with the needs and wishes of others.