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Kids are not the problem. How parents react is the problem. Learn how to change your perspective to have a better relationship with your children.
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Parenting books and products to learn why your kids drive you crazy and what you can do about it. You’ll find the resources you need to help you cope and raise great kids.
- When Your Kids Push Your Buttons
- Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids
- Audiobooks
- The Buttons Parent Workbook
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Have you ever asked yourself, “Why did I DO that??”
Wish you knew what else to do?
Learn how to deal with kids who don’t listen — and lots more.
- Part One – includes Part 1 workbook
- Part Two – (Part 1 highly recommended prior to Part 2) – includes Part 2 workbook
- Part One and Two purchased together – includes full workbook
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"Thank you, thank you! I feel so much relief, as a great weight has been lifted--the weight of my worry, powerlessness, shame, and despair. I feel so much more grounded as a parent and I'm feeling all the ripple effects of this--greater ease, enjoyment, and connection with my girl."
~ Mother of seven year old
"Someone called and left a message saying WHEN YOUR KIDS PUSH YOUR BUTTONS is the best parenting book he ever read and that everyone in his parenting group had read it! "
~ my editor at Warner Books
"This has been the equivalent of a chiropractic realignment of my parenting spine. You hit it right on the head with “you didn't mean he darn well better respect me, you meant, he darn well better obey me.” "
~ Mother of 14 and 16 yr. olds
"Your thoughtful approach to teaching the reframing techniques allows us to feel better as parents and BE better parents, and to take control and responsibility for our own behavior. We need to be in control and you gave us the tools to do that. THANK YOU."
~ Wellesley Women’s Forum
"I just wanted you to know that you have influenced yet another parent to reframe her perspective. Thank you for putting so much of your experience and guidance down in writing."
~ mother of two boys
"My words are trivial compared to the impact your book has had on me and my family. My self-concept as a parent has shifted and my ability to manage my buttons has grown. We are enjoying each other at a level I have never experienced with them."
"Bonnie Harris is a powerful voice of reason, rhyme and guts. We need to stop seeing parenting as something that parents endure and start taking into account that parenting implies relationship, not a set of rules that little people better follow or else. "
~ a mother and author
"To be able to understand, sympathize, and help your child is a gift that every parent and child deserves."
~ mother of three girls
"My 9 year old and I have a much better relationship. We are better able to communicate and actually think about the other person. "
~ mother of a 9 and a 2 yr. old
"Bonnie is so dynamic and entertaining to listen to - I really can't get enough. You painted a picture with your examples and explain your principles very well."
"The information you have to share is so eye opening for so many of us. Many parents I spoke to left feeling like they wanted to hear more from you – and I told them to buy a book! Your work is making families happier, stronger, and kinder."
~ event organizer, Philadelphia
"Every family could use a little Bonnie now and then! My husband and I first came to Bonnie looking for help with our spirited child. Throughout our struggles and joys, Bonnie has helped us to understand the interpersonal dynamics in our family and given us useful practical advice. "
~ mother of two
"They tell you that there's no guide for being a good parent, but that's not true. It's Bonnie."
~ Father of 7, 10, 11 and 13 yr. olds
Read Bonnie's articles on Connective Parenting
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