We all know the feeling. Our child says or does that certain something, we see red and react in ways we regret. We feel out of control, blame the child, and set up our next power struggle. We “go on automatic” and lose our maturity and authority. But we have a choice. We can either punish our child for pushing our buttons or take a look at what our buttons are, why we react the way we do, and take responsibility for our behavior—like an adult.
You know your button has been pushed when:
- You engage in the “Road Rage of Parenting”
- You hear your mother or father saying those words you swore you never would
- You feel enraged, hopeless, guilty, resentful, etc.
- You catastrophize and project your child into the future
- You know you could never have gotten away with what your child just did
Our child’s behavior triggers an old wound. Our buttons were planted long ago from messages we took in from our parents’ reactions to us. Those old painful emotions get tapped, it hurts, and we